While working as a police officer for several agencies, I’ve witnessed my share of domestic violence. I’ve always wondered why women/men return to a violent relationship after being assaulted or verbally abused by their partner.
Those feelings intensify when children are involved. I can see why this behavior continues from one generation to the next. Your children mimic the behavior they see/experience. You can talk about respecting each other all you want; however, children learn from what they see. If they see constant strife, verbal and physical abuse, etc., you can bet that’s the behavior they’ll bring to their relationships or families.
I’ll get back to my frustration with the violence I’ve witnessed. I once dealt with a woman whose husband kicked in their bedroom door then beat her with a piece of the door. He hit so severely her face swelled three times its normal size. She went back to the relationship, and remember the children witnessed the incident, so I’m guessing they must have felt the behavior exhibited was normal.
Again, why do they go back? A movie I recently watched explained it with one line. “We accept the love we think we deserve.” A light bulb went off. How real is that line? If we aren’t taught to respect each other from the time we’re born. This behavior will continue from one generation to the next and beyond.
Respect! That’s what it’s all about.