Domestic Violence/Respect

While working as a police officer for several agencies, I’ve witnessed my share of domestic violence. I’ve always wondered why women/men return to a violent relationship after being assaulted or verbally abused by their partner.

Those feelings intensify when children are involved. I can see why this behavior continues from one generation to the next. Your children mimic the behavior they see/experience. You can talk about respecting each other all you want; however, children learn from what they see. If they see constant strife, verbal and physical abuse, etc., you can bet that’s the behavior they’ll bring to their relationships or families.

I’ll get back to my frustration with the violence I’ve witnessed. I once dealt with a woman whose husband kicked in their bedroom door then beat her with a piece of the door. He hit so severely her face swelled three times its normal size. She went back to the relationship, and remember the children witnessed the incident, so I’m guessing they must have felt the behavior exhibited was normal.

Again, why do they go back? A movie I recently watched explained it with one line. “We accept the love we think we deserve.” A light bulb went off. How real is that line? If we aren’t taught to respect each other from the time we’re born. This behavior will continue from one generation to the next and beyond.

Respect! That’s what it’s all about.


Domestic Violence

I just watched the video of Kansas City Chief’s player Kareem Hunt and the unidentified female involved in a verbal altercation, which turned physical and resulted in the Chief’s releasing him from the team because he lied to their investigators.

The female approached Hunt, but she didn’t strike him. However, I did see him hit her and then a struggle ensued. Hunt was then pushed by an unidentified male. I believe it’s a friend of his, into to her; knocking her to the ground. They were eventually separated, but not before Hunt kicked her when she was still on the ground.

What’s interesting about this incident of Domestic Violence. Yes, let’s call it what it indeed is, Domestic Violence. Is how some are defending Hunt. Calling her a gold digger, etc., and some of the people supporting him are female!

Watching the video, I didn’t see anything she did to deserve a response such as his. Now, she may be a gold digger, and may have been “egging him on.” There’s no sound with the video. Again, words are just words. He’s an adult. They’re both adults. Words don’t equal striking anyone. Period!

Also, another interesting response to this incident: Some were more interested in how this would affect the Chief’s game today and future games. Again, a lot of those criticizing the team’s response were women.

They seem to be selective in protecting women’s rights. Like, when it benefits them, and if this video depicted a police officer, firefighter, teacher, etc., or anyone else for that matter doing the same thing. Some of those same people would lose their damn minds.

Domestic Violence is wrong. No matter who perpetuates the violence. Pure and simple.

Go, Giants! I’m only kidding. Until next time, Peace/Out. 



I’ve had several conversations over the past several weeks about how, we, as parents, screw up our children without even realizing the damage we do to them.

Now, I’m not speaking of anything intentional, but more to statements we make, a behavior we exhibit, our actions, etc., while our children are growing up.

We must remember they’re like sponges. When Taylor was elementary school age, she would always show up during a conversation at the least opportune time. When, and I know it’s hard to believe, I would use “colorful” language.

I want to share one story. I was watching a movie starring Hugh Grant, Mickie Blue Eyes. The plot of the film: Grant’s fiancé’s dad is a Mafia member. One scene has grant and his fiancé in a Chinese restaurant, and he’s planning to propose to her after dinner. The owner of the restaurant felt Grant was eating too slowly and she tried to hurry him; stating, “fucking eat.” Well, Taylor, who was 5-years-old at the time, comes upstairs at the exact time as she spoke those words. Now, what are the chances of her coming up those stairs at that moment?

She seemed oblivious, or so it seemed. We were eating dinner, my wife, Taylor and me. I was sitting between them, and Lori was attempting to get Taylor to eat her vegetables. Lori can be a noodge. You know a pain-in-the-ass. Well, Taylor had enough, and she waited for her to turn away. When she did, Taylor looked at me and stated ever so softly, “Fucking eat.” I got up and left the kitchen before I started laughing.

The moral of this story: Children are like sponges, but they seem to remember all the wrong things. Be careful about what you say, your behaviors and actions. They’re ALWAYS watching and listening!

Until next time. Peace/out.


stack of love wooden blocks

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Some would say. If you’re going to love, be sure to love everyone. Not just when it’s easy, but when it’s difficult; Even when there’s nothing in it for you.

I have a confession. I don’t love everyone. There are some people/hate groups who I feel, as a society. We would be better off without them. These people/groups possess evil so intense; well, in my opinion. It’s scary and dangerous.

Some are pre-disposed to violence, They’re compelled to commit crimes and can’t control themselves. Their crimes are so heinous that it sickens me.

I guess the best we can do is have hope. Hope that someday society will come to its senses and realize it’s so very dysfunctional. The world has lost its ####### mind!

Until then, keep hugging (I’m a closet hugger/lol) and try to be there for each other. You know. Not just when it’s easy, but when it’s difficult, as well.

Have a great weekend. I don’t know about you, but I have a six-pack of hard root beer waiting for me.

I’m out.

School Buses


Over the last week or so, five children and several adults have been killed or injured in a series of accidents involving school buses. They were either waiting for the buses or run over while crossing by apparently distracted drivers. While the crashes are still active investigations, it seems to be leaning in that direction.

In my opinion, this has been coming for a long time. Since the arrival of texting and being able to access email through cellphones. I have seen many incidents of distracted drivers.

  • Drivers are passing me on highways. Keep in mind, I’m doing seventy miles-per-hour, and they pass me checking their phones. They must be going eighty miles-per-hour!
  • I observed a driver at the intersection of 7-Highway by the 70-Highway entrance, who was looking down checking their phone, drive through the intersection and jump a curve before realizing they were moving!
  • Just recently, a co-worker’s pregnant daughter was rear-ended by a distracted driver, which resulted in her getting admitted to the hospital for observation. Luckily, all turned out well.

This school bus situation has me concerned because I don’t feel most people are getting what’s happening. Sure, they watch the news stories, read the articles, etc., and comment on how horrible these accidents are for everyone. However, they get into their vehicles and do the same thing!

I hate texting because I’m probably the slowest texter, ever. So, I either ignore the text or wait until I arrive at my destination to return the text; If I remember (lol)!

The twenty-four-year-old driver who just about wiped out a whole family, a nine-year-old sister and her six-year-old twin brothers claimed she didn’t “see” the stopped school bus with its lights and crossbar activated. I understand it was dark but, a big ####### school bus with its lights activated. I get pissed every time I think about the incident and her response.

We have become a society of no consequences. Just do whatever the hell you want, and don’t worry about anything. Dismiss whatever it is and move on.

Dear God, these are children going to school and parents trying to keep them safe. Please pay attention while driving!

Is Society Broke?


I just read several articles regarding kidnapping, homicide and sexual assault.

  • A six-year-old female child kidnapped from her room earlier this year. Her buried body recently recovered.
  • A thirteen-year-old female child also kidnapped. They located her body in the same area as the six-year-old. A male has been arrested and held in the above two incidents.
  • A Border Patrol supervisor detained for the murder of four females in the past two weeks.

In my opinion, Society has become desensitized to the kidnapping, murder, and rape of children. Not a sexual assault. Rape. These are children, six and thirteen. It’s disgusting, and we should be outraged!

Also, women are raped and murdered with impunity. Remember the rape of the college student by the dumpster? The one where two other students witnessed the situation and stopped the assault. In what I call a travesty. The judge gave the perpetrator; I believe, six months jail time! He dared to appeal his sentence. Talk about privilege.

Teachers assaulted by students and teachers are sexually assaulting/raping their students. Kids are shooting up their schools and classmates.

I remember when there’d be road races, football/baseball games with “basic” security precautions. Now there are checkpoints, magnetometers, pat downs, etc.

Seniors assaulted by young people, teenagers, etc. Domestic violence is resulting in spouses getting shot, stabbed, etc. Older members of society should be looked at with respect; for their knowledge, etc. That isn’t the case. More fatalities. So much disrespect toward each other.

Let’s make schools more balanced. Make College affordable to everyone. Everyone deserves a shot at dreaming and reaching their dreams.

We, as a society, will protest kneeling at the beginning of a football game, but not a child being raped and murdered. Just blow it off. You know, Things like this happen. Bullshit!

Something is wrong with society. Something broke!

I’ve heard some people comment. This type of crime has always happened, but because of Social Media, we read about these stories instantaneously. Bullshit, again.

I repeat. Something is wrong with society. Something broke!

High School Student Commits Suicide


Just listened to the press conference regarding the teenager who committed suicide at Lee’s Summit-North High School.

First of all my prayers to the family and friends of the student. Also, to the teachers and students of the Lee’s Summit School District. Lastly, to the first responders. They are responsible for dealing with a lot of horrible situations but don’t get nearly enough recognition.

Now the media. You all are dumbasses! All I heard was your concern about the difference between a soft and hard lockdown. Really! Is that all you could up with from this horrible, horrible, incident?

A soft lockdown is designed for students and staff to shelter-in-place and allows for quick movement by law enforcement/EMS personnel. Hallways are cleared and allow for a quicker reunification of families, etc. One of the only differences are the exterior doors to the facility are not locked.

My guess is they knew it was an isolated incident/one gunshot, etc.; therefore, opted for a soft lockdown.

The concern should be for the deceased student, her family, and friends, etc. Also, researching ways to try and prevent horrible incidents such as todays from getting to that point.

We need way more focus on mental health issues in this country!

The media truly has become a joke.

Lee’s Summit North High School dismisses students early after teenage girl takes her life